Success and Making Mistakes

The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.

Dale Carnegie

It’s about time that we change our thinking on failures and mistakes. They should not discourage us or be a source of embarrassment, but rather we should view them both as valuable lessons. Yes, a failure is also a lesson. Mistakes and failures only become a problem if we don’t take the time to reflect on what happened, in order to learn anything from them, and give up instead. Whenever I hear the word failure, I think back to the below golden nugget of wisdom which I encountered years ago;

F = First

A = Attempt

I = In

L = Learning

A failure or a mistake is simply an opportunity to learn from the experience before trying again with a different approach. This is how people become successful – they try things, learn from what does and doesn’t work, adapt their approach and try again. They repeat this until they achieve what they set out to. Not only do they achieve success (whatever that may look like to them) but they learn an awful lot along the way, as well as becoming resilient enough to deal with whatever life throws at them.

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better

Samuel Beckett

Overnight success is a myth, created and peddled by social media snake-oil salesmen and frauds marketers who just want to sell you a get-rich quick scheme. You can spot these individuals by taking a closer look at their profiles. They stand out because they haven’t actually built anything of their own, like a genuine bricks-and-mortar or online business, but just sell courses and programmes which promise to help you reach more people and make money quickly. Programmes neither backed by research or actual experience. Of course we all would love to have more money and nice things, but the simple truth is that it takes a lot of hard work, perseverance and trial-and-error before you achieve success.

This is why only a small number of people achieve their big goals, because we are sold a myth about how quick and easy it all is. When it doesn’t happen and we hit a setback instead, the majority of people lose hope and give up. Those who truly succeed are the ones who keep learning, growing and trying. More than becoming accomplished in their chosen arena, the journey which they took to get there helps them to grow into the kind of people who will continue to learn, grow and experience further successes. All of this would never be achieved, if they were to give up after their first mistake or failure. So, if you are to take one lesson from those who have achieved greatness in the face of adversity, it’s that you should embrace your mistakes and learn from them before getting back up and trying again. And again. And again until you finally make it. Then you set bigger goals and start over.

 

I have not failed 10,000 times. I have successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work

Thomas Edison