It’s easy to look at successful people and just assume that they are forever lucky. To outward appearances, they don’t experience setbacks. Instead, they only have good things happen to them. It’s an easy misunderstanding to make. Many of these people have a reputation to uphold or an ego that needs stroking, so they give interviews, write books and create social media posts which only highlight the positive aspects of their lives, their wins and their successes.
The truth is that they too experience misfortune, the same as anybody else. In fact, the rich and famous often experience setbacks, challenges and losses on a larger scale than many of the rest of us. That said, many of them share something pretty special. Something which each and every one of us can learn from. This special something is possible for each and every person on this planet to adopt. It’s a strategy, and a very successful one at that.
This strategy is all about dealing with failures and setbacks, and is as simple as it is incredibly powerful;
- Be a student of life, and take everything in your stride. Firstly, when things go wrong don’t panic. It’s easier said than done, but it is possible.
- Go for a run, walk, gym session, swim, play the piano or do something else to take your mind off of what has happened.
- Feeling calm, revisit what happened and look for what you can learn from the experience. Learn from your experiences, what works and what doesn’t.
- Once you have taken all lessons from the experience, let it go. Dwelling on a failure will only stall any future progress. So reflect, learn and move on.
- Do the same for all of your experiences, good and bad. Look for lessons to be learned and things that can be improved upon at all times. Learn from others, read, watch documentaries, visit museums and never lose your curiosity. This is what it means to be a student of life.
- With a hunger for lifelong learning, setbacks stop registering as negative experiences in your mind. Instead, you come to view them as opportunities to learn and grow.
- Learn to recapture a positive state of mind rapidly, even after a major setback, roadblock or problem. This is one of the keys to leading a successful, fulfilling life. Your mind is a very powerful tool, which needs to be handled with care. Whatever you focus on will determine the quality of your life.
- Dwelling on past negative experiences will only lead to fear, insecurity and a mediocre life of risk avoidance.
- Dealing with setbacks, learning from experiences, applying the new knowledge and getting back to work on your goals is the best way to get back up after a fall. It’s difficult the first few times, as the temptation is to wallow in self-pity, but do this a few times and it soon becomes an automatic reaction to problems which would otherwise derail your progress.
Teach yourself to return to a mental state of positivity and optimism over and over. Train yourself to do that until positivity becomes your default mental state, and notice how much better life becomes. Notice your increased energy, motivation, willingness to take chances and your ability to bounce back after a failure. Positivity and resilience are choices, and after a bit of practice, become easier and easier. Give it a go. Surprise yourself.