Authenticity, and being ourselves, are incredibly important. So we try our best to find out who we are. How do we go about this? We think of self discovery and authenticity as a process, journey or quest, so we create a plan of action. This plan basically involves going out into the world, living your life and trying to look for signs as to who and what you are. This approach gets you nowhere.
Think for a moment about what is happening when we follow the above course of action. We essentially put ourselves at the mercy of others, and passively become what the world decides we should be. Instead, we should be actively deciding who we are, before taking decisive action to become that person.
You must decide who you are and live your life in a way which reflects that decision.
Sounds simple, so why aren’t more people actually doing this? People fear being labelled as a fraud or an impostor. They fear that if they consciously decide who they want to become and take action to make that a reality, that they would be regarded as inauthentic and living a lie. The truth, however, is that you cannot find yourself by going out into the world and waiting to be told who you are.
Stop waiting for your family, friends or boss to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do with your life. Stop waiting for others to tell you you are or aren’t good at. However well meaning it may be, it’s just their personal opinion and not a statement of fact.
- Reflect on who you believe yourself to be. What makes you happy? What motivates you? What are you passionate about? What direction do you want your life to take? What are the strengths and weaknesses in both your character and skills.
- Decide what you want to excel at, and where you want life to take you.
- Set your goals, create a plan for how to achieve them, and then take determined action.
Decide who you are and what you want. Then take action to make that a reality.
Self discovery is all about making decisions. You must play an active role in shaping who you are, and your future. Don’t wait for others to define you. It is up to you to decide who you want to be and back this up with the consistent actions which will forge that life.
You don’t FIND OUT who you are, but you DECIDE who you are.
Life is not a passive journey, it is intentional. Self discovery is about deciding where you want to go, and along the way learning and growing into the person you decided to become.
Make a decision about who you want to be. Visualise this vividly in your mind. You should be able to close your eyes and see this future you in all its detail. Now, take action to become that person.
You can reinvent yourself at any time. This is important, because as we learn and grow, our priorities change. Successful people are those who decided who they wanted to be, and did whatever was necessary to become that person.
It’s YOUR decision. It’s YOUR life. Only YOU can decide how that life will be lived.
If you wait for the world to determine what you become, you will become average. The world wants you to be the same as everyone else, but if this is not for you and an average life is unacceptable, it’s in YOUR hands to do something about it.