Have you ever stopped to think carefully about what standards you are setting for yourself personally and professionally? If not, now is the time to start. What do you expect of yourself? Are you living up to your expectations? What behaviours and influences do you allow from other people?
Not enough time and consideration is given to the expectations we set for ourselves. This can lead to us falling short of our potential or entering into toxic relationships with people who don’t respect us. The truth is that we either live up or live down to the expectations we set for ourselves. Subconsciously, we determine what we are prepared to accept in our lives and our actions and words are adjusted to reflect this.
You can identify someone who has set low expectations for themselves by the language they use. They hope, wish or wonder if something is possible. This screams self-doubt. The message that they are sending is that they would love it if they could achieve whatever it is that they are focusing on, but they are not convinced that they can do it. This will then show in their actions. They won’t commit fully to a course of action because they don’t believe that they have a realistic chance of success. And then they wonder why they fell short of their goals, convincing themselves that they did all they could and it just wasn’t meant to be. I know this scenario very well, because I have been here more times than I care to remember.
On the other hand, when you set high expectations for yourself, your mindset becomes more positive and your actions more determined. Expect great things of yourself because when you expect success, you attract positive results. Without realising it, you will put everything you have into whatever you do, which in turn will give you the best possible chance of succeeding in pursuit of your goals. You expected to succeed, so you put every ounce of effort you could muster into making it happen. Not only that, but when you set high expectations for yourself, you tend to find yourself drawn to like-minded people. Instead of being drawn into toxic relationships with people whose insecurities and agendas will bring you down and damage your confidence, you will find yourself among people who inspire you and support your goals and your direction.
Stop hoping. Stop wishing. Stop wondering. That is for dreamers. Know that it will happen. Expect that it will happen. And then work relentlessly for it. That is as close to a recipe for success as I can give you.
If you are serious about changing your life, you need to change your views on greatness and success. Instead of thinking about them as something to be hoped for, learn to think of them as something which you expect. This leads to a shift to a positive mindset, and with this mindset you will naturally be inclined to do everything within your power to achieve that which you expect. Set yourself high expectations and you will find yourself doing whatever it takes to meet them. Set them low, and you will find yourself forever dreaming about what others are achieving.
Ok, so here comes the hard part. I have some homework for you. Grab a pen and paper, and write down what you currently expect of yourself, what you value and what you allow into your life. Now think about how you could raise those expectations. Where are you selling yourself short? Create a list of new, high expectations and set about achieving them. Believe that they will happen, and your actions will reflect this because if you expect great things, you will do whatever it takes to achieve them. It’s hard and takes a lot of practice, but once those wins start coming, you won’t be lowering your expectations again. Ever.